Open Relationship by curlz81 (September 9, 2009 at 10:50 pm)

where to start . . .

what’s wrong with people today where they can claim to be in love in a happy relationship, but play outside of it. it seems to me that people who aren’t fulfilled by their relationship should deal with it or get out of it. you can’t…

12 Comments so far

1. omac (September 9, 2009 at 11:13 pm)

   Is that you mo?

2. next (September 10, 2009 at 11:41 am)

   I dont think is mo

3. Steve84 (September 10, 2009 at 2:44 pm)

   Depends whether sex is considered to be a part of loving someone…. This is the 21st century and a lot of people have very open ideas about what to expect from a partner. You can love someone without having sex with them, so why then cant you love someone, and have sex with them and other people?

   But I agree that it is important that both people in the relationship understand and agree to playing around with others.

   If the other person doesn’t want you to do that, and you go ahead and do it anyway, well that simply shows a lack of respect and love for the other person. But when both people are fine with it, then go for it, its just natural I say

4. curlz81 (September 11, 2009 at 11:47 pm)

   no, not mo

   the fact of the matter is, that if you’re “in love” sex is a massive portion of that, and a telltale sign of the strength/weakness of the relationship. expressing yourself physically with no inhibitions is the best indication of that love; so to imitate it with random(s) seems second best in comparison. an hour of pleasure can easily derail relationships of decades . . . why take the chance?

5. Steve84 (September 12, 2009 at 5:53 am)

   I disagree that sex is necessarily a massive portion of being “in love”.

   Think of all the old married couples out there that obviously still love each other dearly, but would never have sex anymore. Does that mean they are no longer “in love” if they are no longer having sex?

   When sex breaks down over time as it does with old couples, it proves that there is so much more holding their love together, and whatever that is has been there for a very long time.

   Anyway, people can stray from their partners for any number of reasons, but it is certainly a normal desire. Society deems it wrong / disrespectful or whatever, but nature does not. Some people can accept this and have open relationships, other people can not. Neither way is right or wrong, it just comes down to what both people are comfortable with.

   As long as someones relationship with someone else is not affecting you, I don’t see the need to judge or criticize it.

6. omac (September 12, 2009 at 10:57 am)

   I think people just stray because they are bored…point blank!!

7. curlz81 (September 16, 2009 at 7:56 pm)

   steve . . . you’re a doofus. what do you think the purpose of the website is?

   i’ve obviously hit a cord. maybe next time you’ll think twice

8. next (September 16, 2009 at 11:54 pm)

   NEXT

9. Steve84 (September 17, 2009 at 8:06 am)

   curlz81, what do YOU think the purpose of this site is?

   For everyone to agree with a provocative comment you make?

   When you start a comment by stating “what’s wrong with people today…”, you are only asking for it.

   Simply put, I’m having a whinge about your whinge, which certainly falls within the context of what this site is about!

10. curlz81 (September 17, 2009 at 10:28 pm)

    and I quote . . . “As long as someones relationship with someone else is not affecting you, I don’t see the need to judge or criticize it.”

    but love the back peddle

11. Steve84 (September 18, 2009 at 7:49 am)

    and I quote . . . “As long as someones relationship with someone else is not affecting you, I don’t see the need to judge or criticize it.”

    I’m glad you realise that was the most important part of what I said

12. imogen (November 5, 2009 at 7:18 pm)

    Huh. Pray tell, how do you know the contents of other people’s hearts? FYI, I love my boyfriend of 5 years so much I WOULD DIE FOR HIM. Literally, seriously. We have awesome sex together.
    At the same time, I am a highly sexual person and I’m attracted (physically, chemically) to lots of other men too. From time to time, I enjoy sleeping with them. And my boyfriend does the same with the women he is attracted to. It’s really fun for us. And we love each other enough to put aside our jealousy and try to be happy for one another. It’s like a hobby!
    What’s wrong with people today who think they know everything about other people’s lives?

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